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How to Handle Rejection: A High Schooler’s Guide to Heartbreak

I’m sure we have all either experienced or witnessed the aftermath of being rejected. Rejection can be extremely damaging to your mental and physical health. At times, you can feel so broken that you believe you will never heal. When we finally build up the confidence to make our move and it fails, that feeling of regret and sorrow can take a negative toll on ourselves. The good news is that rejection and heartbreak is very common among us teenagers, so remember that you are not alone. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, and all you have to do is create a few self-care habits. While practicing these habits, it is crucial to give yourself time, patience, and positivity in order to heal. 

At first glance, you would assume that in order to overcome heartbreak you would want to try and become superior to your depressive state. However, the first and most important step to handle and overcome rejection is to simply acknowledge how you are feeling and give yourself time; if you keep ignoring your feelings of sadness and regret, you will never truly overcome your heartbreak and return to yourself. Executive Leadership and Performance Consultant Malachi Thompson states, “Listen to the voice inside you that describes the injustice you feel. Give it air time. Allow that voice to talk and lick the emotional wounds.” So, do what you need to do. Listen to sad music and sit in your thoughts while eating ice cream. It is even normal to replay the conversation that led you to feel the way you do. Writing your thoughts to release them from your mind and talking to a loved one is a great way to acknowledge how you’re feeling. Take as much time as you need to cry it out. Avoiding social media is never a bad idea as well. Always remember to be gentle on yourself during this time. Crying is 100% normal. If you chose to ignore your gloomy thoughts and feelings, you will never heal. 

Once you have given yourself time to let out the foggy feelings, try and slowly wean your way back to a new and improved lifestyle. To do this, try incorporating exercise, mediation, healthy foods, and new things into your life. Remember that you’re still healing, so don’t put too much onto your body. You need to prove to yourself that you’re strong on your own and you do not need anyone or anything to tell you otherwise. “Grief does shape us in big ways,” says Lodro Rinzler, a meditation instructor. You can grow from rejection and eventually move onto greater things in life. You now have the power to become a new and content person. 

With that said, recovering from rejection does take time. Always stay mindful that you are not alone, and there are millions of people around the world now who are experiencing heartbreak as well. When you do find yourself again, you will find that you have improved as a person. You do not need anyone or anything to determine your worth!

Alright, well, luckily for all of you heartbroken guys, gals, and other pals this article was a conjoined effort, meaning that there is some actual truth in what you are about to hear. It may sound like jagged, cold, hard truth compared to the sympathetic feelings above, but Lizzo once said, “Truth Hurts.” Do you really want to get over your valentine rejection? Follow these quick steps to completely forget that it ever happened.

The first step to getting over rejection would be to realize that your crush was too good for you anyways. An anonymous source stated, “I built myself up for months to ask my crush out, and after they rejected me, I realized I needed to lower my expectations.” A good song and guide for this vital step would be “Lower Your Expectations” by Bo Burnham. “If you want love, lower your expectations a few-Because Prince Charming would never settle for you-If you want love, just pick a guy and love him.” This is expert advice for getting over it. 

The second step, although rather harsh, would be to push it out of your mind and simply forget anything ever happened. “I realized that they were too good for me and if I really loved them, I would just do what I do with all of my problems and ignore them.” The anonymous quote was taken from a student quietly balling in the hallway like a toddler with no mother lost in the middle of Walmart. The student may turn to other crushes in a similar way where the toddler will turn to women with similar haircuts as their mother.

The third and final step of getting over a rejection would be to become extremely paranoid about ever going into another relationship. You know what they say: “Can’t hurt you if it’s not even there.” A teenager states, “After I was rejected by my crush, I decided to reject everyone else. Goodbye friends and family. I now live on a diet mainly consisting of ramen noodles and my own tears. Am I happy? Yes. I am one hundred percent satisfied with getting crushes on fictional characters from a wide range of anime.” 

As you can see, these steps work wonders for the rejected population of Thunderbird High School.